Am Angry............!!!!!!


A recent incident deeply disturbed me…an uncle of mine had passed away after fulfilling all his obligations and living a fulfilling life.As is customary all the elaborate rituals spread over 13 days for the onward journey of the soul, were over and we were just sitting around and chatting . This particular aunt was a very chirpy and practical person and had coped very well thus far with her loss. She casually remarked, ‘ I must from now on remember not to wear a bindi …have been so used to doing it all these years, I must not do anything stupid’.

A remark that shocked and hit me real hard! What was so far a part of her daily routine and attire, was suddenly termed out of bounds and considered a great crime.

What are we making our women folk go through under the garb of tradition and culture?

Imagine ever since the day she is born, a girl is used to wearing a bindi and flowers on her head. And what right do we have to tell her to discontinue this practise once her life partner is dead and gone. Am not here to argue as to what the men folk give up when their wives die…that’s a senseless discussion.

But its bad enough that you have to cope up with the loss of a dear one ...on top of it we interfere in their day to day life and impose restrictions on them which only further the grief by pointing out to the loss even more distinctly!

Gone are the days where we had the extremes of sati or women having to shave off their heads and wear a white Saree…. We claim to have reached the status of a super developed nation and where do our women stand?

And I partly blame the women too…they have dinned it into their own heads that they have to follow certain practices setting aside their own likes and dislikes. Given a choice I think most women would love to carry on their normal lives but are so scared of what the society will say ! Bull shit to such a society I would say …

If at all anything is given up in the memory of the departed soul, it should be something very personal to the surviving partner, done in a voluntary manner … not something done for the sake of some stupid custom.

But I guess a reformation can come around only if women put their minds to it… I tried it so hard with my own mom when my dad passed away but totally failed!

Passing Thoughtssssssssss..........



Disappointments are like Medicines...

You can't bear to have them even in small doses...

Want to gulp them all down in one go and

make them disappear and get back on track.

But it never happens that way...

medicines take their own sweet time to work.

Yeah...with a whole lot of side effects too!

No one loves them yet have to accept that

at some point the Doc prescribes them for you.



So it is in life.

The Doc called GOD up there prescribes them [ Disappointments]

for you once in a way.With all its side effects...



Medicines teach you to appreciate the value of Good Health.

Disappointments help you take stock of life and appreciate happiness.

Learn to take them as a process to rebuild your strength...

Make you a better person!

believe me ...it works!!!!

I AM BEAUTIFUL…SO ARE YOU!

Why do most of us always have the feeling that we are not perfect and that we need to
change? Is it because people around us are constantly pointing out to the negatives in us,
ignoring the positive points. Well if so, then I think something is drastically wrong with
them…and with you too for letting them do it!
I hate anyone comparing themselves with an‘other’ person and yearning to be like them.

You are special in your own way – realize that!

If you were like the other person with all his good qualities life would be so boring. So what if
you are not perfect? No one is!

So what if you are short tempered? So what if you have no aptitude for numbers? So what if

you are obsessed with only good food and are not good in general knowledge? So what if you
are not tech savvy?

Isn’t it that which makes life interesting for you and all those around you! Isn’t it that which
makes you so unique?

But don’t get me wrong…. If someone is overweight and obese and heading for trouble health wise, I don’t want them to turn around and say, ‘ Hey am special! That’s the way I am’.

There’s nothing special in hogging away to glory and being obese…you had better get that
bottom of yours moving and jog to the nearest park!

It’s your basic personality that we are talking about!

LOVE YOURSELF FOR WHAT YOU ARE!

LIKE YOURSELF FOR WHAT YOU ARE!

Because if you don’t like what you see, no body else will either!

You are special in your own way!

You are beautiful in your way!

Permit experiences to smoothen the rough edges in your character to make you a complete
person. But don’t chisel yourself away to try and make a new ‘you’…coz one fine day you
may not recognize yourself …more often then not it could leave you disfigured and
distressed.

And why should you try and impress anyone?

Let people accept you for what you are…if they don’t I don’t think you ever needed them!

I think I am a beautiful person…and I think ‘you’ who is reading this now is beautiful too…!

Cheers to a beautiful life!